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Music Monday

Annie was one of the first musicals I saw when I was a child. I have gone many time to The Muny to see it. The Muny is an outdoor theater that St. Louis has in Forest Park. There are even free seats if you get there early. Enjoy this clip from YouTube about Annie at The Muny!

https://youtu.be/LClXUGfb2w0

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Every Day

Every single day I listen to a podcast! Most of the time it is on my way to work or on my way home. If I have time throughout the day to listen, I will also listen then too. Today I will make a list of the ones that I have already listened to and I think you would enjoy too.

How it is by Hello Sunshine with Reese Witherspoon and Diane Guerrero! This podcast is by far my most favorite! It has made me laugh, cry and just feel empowered! I recommended it to everyone! The first season is over, so I cannot wait and hope for a second!

The Minimalists with Josh and Ryan. They talk to us about how to live life minimally! I have decided that I too would like to do that, but not to the extreme that they are. Well, I wouldn’t call them extreme, but I for sure will have more “stuff” than they would. They have been pod-casting for a while now and I still have not finished all of their episodes, because I am a podcast bouncer!

This is Love is a podcast about LOVE! There are 6 episodes and each one is a little different than the other. I think the 2nd and 3rd are my favorite of the 6 episodes, but I recommend listening to all! Another season will came out in the fall. Hopefully they will have more than six episodes!

Coffee Convos hosted by Kail Lowery from Teen Mom 2 and  Lindsie Chrisley of USA Network’s Chrisley Knows Best. They are both pretty funny and its nice to see a totally different side of their lives! I look forward to it every Wednesday! They talk about stars, motherhood and being totally opposite.

Ear Hustle between Nigel Poor, a Bay Area visual artist, Earloone Woods, who is currently incarcerated at San Quentin State Prison and was co-founded with fellow inmate Antwan Williams. This podcast keeps it real! They tell you all about prison life and I never thought it would be so interesting, but it really is! Oh, and the music and beats on it are amazing!

Caught is about the juvenile detention system and how it is being a kid/teen there. You get to hear about how it has change their lives forever! I will never forget the episode where one of the kids said that they just want someone to love them, even if its for a second! How sad! Gosh, it makes me want to help them so much more!

Its happening with Snooki and her gay best friend Joey! They are so funny together! They talk about celebs and anything and everything!

Dirty John I binge listened to over a weekend! It was interesting it is about a successful woman that found a man that was everything she was hoping for! Her daughters end up night liking him find out why in the podcast. It was one I couldn’t put down!

Couples therapy with Casey and Candice. They talk about their life and the therapy that they go through. It is newer and so far I have liked it. They keep it real and honest discussing their relationship and how to make it better.

Whine Down is with Jana Kramer and her good friend. They discuss a little of everything! Relationships, infertility, divorce, parenting, mediums, and sex. She has on guest and its great to just whine down and listen!

Let me know the ones you like and I will give them a try. Have you listened to any of the ones I listed?

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The worst day of my life!

Let me take you through one of the worse events in my life. I was single at that time and was taking my son for a routine visit to his primary care physician and he heard a heart murmur. He told me that some children just have them, but wanted us to follow up with a cardiologist. So, right after leaving I called the cardiologist to get in and the wait was almost over 8-9 months! I called his primary care back and told him. The next thing I knew we had an appointment a couple days later. My mother decided to go with me, just in case. I am forever grateful for her being there for both of us!

The cardiologist office was at our local children’s hospital in the city. When we arrived we checked in and waited at least about 45 mintues before being asking back by one of nurses. Once we were in the room the doctor came in and listed. He did hear the murmur and decided to do an EKG, Echo and xray on the spot. Once all of those were finished we were asked if they could do more on the echo. Yes, of course you can. I remember while walking down the hallway thinking there is something wrong with my baby. I know there is they would not ask for more photos of his heart if there was not anything wrong. They want to make sure what they see is what they see. I remember walking into the room and asking questions to the ultrasound tech and her saying that she cannot tell me and that I will have to wait for the doctor. Once the tech was finished and my mom, Ethan and I were back in the room I turned to my mom started to tear up and say, I know something is wrong with Ethan. My mom held me and told me that no matter what we will get through this and that we are a strong family. The doctor then took forever to come back in. I know for sure that it was at least about an hour before he came back into the room. When he did arrive he did tell us that Ethan has cor triatriatum. Which by deffination is: (or triatrial heart) is a congenital heart defect where the left atrium (cor triatriatum sinistrum) or right atrium (cor triatriatum dextrum) is subdivided by a thin membrane, resulting in three atrial chambers (hence the name).

Obviously I was young at the time and had no idea what he just said! I made him write it down for us and explain it in terms that we could understand. While he explained it he drew a photo and he also showed us on a diagram. When he was explaining he said there are two sides of the heart and in the middle there is tissue in between along with a hole. The blood flow is supposed to go straight down each side, but instead it is going inside the hole and around the tissue. He then said that Ethan would have to have open heart surgery to get the tissue out and close the hole. Ethan was a premature baby and was still weighing less than he should at that time, he wanted us to come back and get check out again in a month, but wanted to hear from us if there were any signs of distress or discomfort and to keep track of feedings, input and out put and/or vomiting. Ethan needed to be feed every 2/3 hours because he was spitting up some of the formula. The doctor was hoping that we could wait until about 1 year old before he does surgery on Ethan so he gave us medication and sent us on our way.

The next appointment that we went to Ethan had to have another echo and I remember walking down the hallway feeling alone and uncomfortable. Once we were in the room for the echo I sat next to Ethan looking at the screen praying that nothing has change for the worst and hoping that it either stayed the same or somehow it got better. Imaging having a baby laying on a medical bed and you holding his hand, face and torso. All while looking at the screen in front of you and the technician taking photos. Your not 100% sure on what your looking at, but you know it is off and not right because you can feel it in your gut.

So, back to the exam room we go and wait for the doctor. The doctor arrives and says that we need to do surgery sooner than we thought because one of the sides of the heart is becoming enlarged. So, we set up the surgery date for when they suggested and we are supposed to be there at 5am!

A few days before surgery I called my doctor because I was having so much anxiety and couldn’t sleep. Thankfully she gave me medication so I would be able to sleep.

The morning of the surgery we walked into the hospital and it was pretty much empty you see nurses and some doctors, that’s really it because it was so early in the morning. I remember they came in and drew blood and rubbed cleansers on his chest. I was able to walk back with Ethan and there really were double doors like they tell/show you in the movies. I kissed Ethan and told him I love him. Once they walked through the doors to the other side I could feel my whole body shut down and I backed up to the wall and squatted down and cried. I just handed my son off to the doctors to perform open heart surgery. Ethan was only 5 months old at the time! I had no idea what could/might happen. I prayed and cried! I went back out to the waiting room where my immediate family was.

The head nurse came out to check on me every few hours and give me updates. My Papa from Oklahoma came in town to be with us that day too. I was so blessed to have many of my family members and friends stop by through out the day. Many brought food for everyone and gifts for Ethan. It felt like days until I was able to see Ethan again, but it was about an 8-10 hour surgery. The hours did not go quickly! I tried to take a nap. I went outside and smoked. (I no longer smoke now!) I talked with everyone to keep my mind at ease.

Once the surgery was finished the doctor came out to talk with us and tell us that everything went as planned and that we can go in and see Ethan. I was going to go by myself, but it was suggested that I go with at least one other person. I didn’t really think it all the way through as to how he was going to look afterwards. I wanted to go with my dad. We walked into a room washed our hands and head to the area that he was in. We walked in and Ethan was laying in this big crib with wires everywhere and was still sleeping. My heart started to beat my crazy, I started to sweat and then tear up. I could not hold him to make anything and everything better. There were machines, tubes and wires everywhere. The scar was fresh you could tell. Luckily my dad was next to me and held me close and told me that Ethan will be okay and we will all be here for you and him.

Those that wanted to go back in the room were allowed and then we went home for the night. We spent a few more days in the hospital and then we were released home. I spent every minute I could there.

We went for check ups after surgery and each time has been good. The last time we were in we were released to come back in 5 years. I do know I can call at anytime if I feel like we have a problem, but hopefully we won’t!

I am still very thankful for the doctors, nurses and other staff members that helped us take care of Ethan.

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National Selfie Day 2018

Randy, Ethan and I all went to dinner today and while we were there I told them that it is national selfie day and that we should take a photo. Let me just tell you my boys do not always enjoy taking photos. They even told me that a selfie is not with a group, it is with a single person so I needed to take the photo with just me in it! Yes

That got me to think… is that true? I just figure if the phone is facing in front of you and you are taking a photo of you and others then it’s a selfie! I decided to look it up to get the proper definition and this is what I found on dictionary.com: a photograph taken with a smartphone or other digital camera by a person who is also in the photograph, especially for posting on a social media website.

So, it doesn’t tell you how many people! Oh dear! What do you think?

Since the boys didn’t let me take a photo I grouped together some of my favorite selfies!

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What we did on Sunday.

This past Sunday was Father’s Day. My husband and I woke up and went over to my parents house and gave my dad a card and special light bulbs that he can use with the Alexa that will turn on and off after you ask it to.

Next we met up with my sister, Kim, her husband, Joe and their kids Logan and Owen. We met at Gus’s Pretzels which is a St. Louis pretzel shop. It is delicious! They also have windows where you can see the workers making the pretzels too. Logan had me hold him up so that he could see many times. Everyone enjoyed their pretzels!

After we were finished at Gus’s we went to Anheuser Busch and did a brewery tour. Our tour guide was great! She made jokes and just had fun with us. We even got to see a few stallion horses! Logan figured out that one of the horses names was Lloyd! He even got to hold one of the horse shoe! It was super big compared to normal size horses! We toured around most of the place and then at the end spent some time at the museum that they have. The very last thing we did was take the bus back to the beginning and Logan was so very excited about this part. He literally grabbed my hand and yelled out mom/dad we are going to the bus to ride it now! Once we were on the bus he was clapping his hands and was telling everyone how excited he was. I was lucky enough to get some photos with him on it and he had one big smile!

Everyone 21 years and older got free samples of beer multiple times and also a chip to use at the end of the tour to use at the resterount. I dont drink beer, so I gave mine to my dad! Lets just say he was feeling pretty good by the end!

Once we were finished there we went to Hodak’s for dinner and then Ted Drews for desert! Ted Drew’s is famous in St. Louis for there frozen custard. The lines are long, but they go fast and with worth every bit of it! It was yummy in my tummy!

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Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the Fathers out there!

Ethan is so lucky to have so many amazing adult male figures in his life!

First, I would like to say thank you to his biological dad. We are now at a 50/50 custody agreement and I think it has worked wonders for everyone’s relationship. Thanks for everything you do for Ethan! I know Ethan looks up to you very much!

Second and my most favorite bond that Ethan has is with my husband, Randy. Randy and I have been together since 2014. So, over the last 4 years Ethan and Randy have really gotten to know each other and have built a relationship that I never knew would happen. I am forever grateful for Randy and how much his life changed when met. Randy went from being single, to a relationship with me and then a father figure to Ethan when he is at our house. I am sure it didn’t take much thinking because Ethan and I are pretty awesome, but I am well aware of the fact that he didn’t have to.  There are days when Ethan and Randy get to be by themselves and they call them bro-days! How stinkin cute is that!

Ethan and Randy can now gain up on me and say boys against girls and boys rule. At one point in my life I never thought I would have that and while sometimes it drives me crazy when they do it.. I wouldn’t change it for the world!

Randy doesn’t talk much about his father since he pass before I knew him, but I am sure his dad would be proud of the person Randy is today. Sometimes Randy will say things like how these cookies used to be his dad’s favorite and I enjoy hearing those stories from him. It makes me feel connected to him and like he can tell me anything.

Ethan still has both sets of grandparents on both sides and I believe that they need the acknowledge because they are both there for Ethan when needed. Thank you to both of you.

As you can tell when I think of Father it is not always the biological father it is all male figures in my sons life.

For Father’s Day Ethan will be with his dad and I hope they have a wonderful day and we will celebrate Randy and Ethan’s relationship when he comes back to our house.

On Father’s Day our plan is to spend time with my mom, dad, sister, sisters husband and their two kids. We are going to a brewery tour and Gus’s pretzels.

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