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Comic Con

A few weekends ago we went Comic Con at the St. Charles Convention Center. We have never been to one before and everyone was very excited! Ethan brought his friend with him and they had a great time walking around seeing all of the vendor.

Randy, Ethan and I went to Kohl’s before and picked up some new shirts for the event on Sunday.
Everyone got a free comic book for going. Randy and I gave ours to Ethan to that he could have more than one comic book to read once he got home.
While walking around and visiting the booths we got to meet and chat with many different artist. There are so many talented people in the world! One person I really enjoyed talking to was a spray painter. He even did a live demonstration! It was amazing to watch! He used different bowls and cups to make his art along with towels and rags. It was so neat to watch. Afterwards he sold both of the paintings he did.
Oh, funny story about that! I sat down by the stage before he started and I asked Ethan and his friend to come over and watch with us. Ethan got frustrated and didn’t want to watch, but once it started and finished he said,  “wow! That was really cool.” See, mom’s know best!
We went on Sunday, but leanred that on Saturday there were more people there in cosplay, so we plan on going next year on Saturday to see more costumes. We might even dres up next time!
Ethan and his friend, Blake fixing their hair with their new switchblade combs.
Have you ever been to a Comic Con or done cosplay? I think it was a really neat excpereince that everyone should do at least one time so that you can see the many great artist out there!
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Goals, July 2018

Hello July! I have decided that I want to do monthly goals and then each month update them. I have learned that writing down goals help, you achieve them. I will have personal goals and then blogging goals.

Personal:

1. Get 10,000 steps every single day in July. I am normally just a few thousand below, so I will take the extra time in the morning and walk. Maybe I will even walk at lunch time depending on how busy we are that day. (I work full time at a doctors office) If I do not get it by the time I get home from work I will go on an evening walk.

2. 1 soda a day! I normally have about 4 a day and I know that is terrible for your teeth and body.

3. Go to bed by 10pm and wake up on the weekends by 10am.

Blogging:

1. Set up a schedule. I would like to do Sunday, Wednesday, and Friday each week.

2. Read other blogs and comment and get to know other bloggers.

3. Share blog on Facebook, instagram and Twitter!

When you reach your goals you should ALWAYS reward yourself! If I reach all goals I plan on getting a much needed full body massage!

What are your goals? Please share in the comments and let’s cheer each other on!

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Big Brother

Have you ever seen Big Brother? If you have not it is on its 20th season, starting tomorrow! I am super excited about it and they better not bring back any more vets (people that have already been on the show)!

CBS has live coverage of it where you can see what they do 24/hr pretty much. Randy and I have watched it a few different times, but not all day/everyday.

I used to not watch much TV at all, but now that I have free time and time to just relax, I have learned to love it! Many times I feel like I might be wasting my time, but you know sometimes you just need a break and binge watch something. Sometimes its nice to not have to think about your to-do list or clean.

Remembering back when I was a child my dad would always say that my sister was the TV watcher and I was the social butterfly, always on the phone! Too funny! Do you remember watching much TV as a child or do you watch more now?

Now back to Big Brother, I started watching this show when I met Randy and I did not think I would like it so much, but much to my surprise I LOVED it! I even started a Facebook group so that we can make predictions about who will win! It is a lot of fun and you are welcome to join it if you like!

https://m.facebook.com/groups/792845357558230

First episode starts tomorrow! Be sure to watch it with me and comment what you liked/dislike!

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The worst day of my life!

Let me take you through one of the worse events in my life. I was single at that time and was taking my son for a routine visit to his primary care physician and he heard a heart murmur. He told me that some children just have them, but wanted us to follow up with a cardiologist. So, right after leaving I called the cardiologist to get in and the wait was almost over 8-9 months! I called his primary care back and told him. The next thing I knew we had an appointment a couple days later. My mother decided to go with me, just in case. I am forever grateful for her being there for both of us!

The cardiologist office was at our local children’s hospital in the city. When we arrived we checked in and waited at least about 45 mintues before being asking back by one of nurses. Once we were in the room the doctor came in and listed. He did hear the murmur and decided to do an EKG, Echo and xray on the spot. Once all of those were finished we were asked if they could do more on the echo. Yes, of course you can. I remember while walking down the hallway thinking there is something wrong with my baby. I know there is they would not ask for more photos of his heart if there was not anything wrong. They want to make sure what they see is what they see. I remember walking into the room and asking questions to the ultrasound tech and her saying that she cannot tell me and that I will have to wait for the doctor. Once the tech was finished and my mom, Ethan and I were back in the room I turned to my mom started to tear up and say, I know something is wrong with Ethan. My mom held me and told me that no matter what we will get through this and that we are a strong family. The doctor then took forever to come back in. I know for sure that it was at least about an hour before he came back into the room. When he did arrive he did tell us that Ethan has cor triatriatum. Which by deffination is: (or triatrial heart) is a congenital heart defect where the left atrium (cor triatriatum sinistrum) or right atrium (cor triatriatum dextrum) is subdivided by a thin membrane, resulting in three atrial chambers (hence the name).

Obviously I was young at the time and had no idea what he just said! I made him write it down for us and explain it in terms that we could understand. While he explained it he drew a photo and he also showed us on a diagram. When he was explaining he said there are two sides of the heart and in the middle there is tissue in between along with a hole. The blood flow is supposed to go straight down each side, but instead it is going inside the hole and around the tissue. He then said that Ethan would have to have open heart surgery to get the tissue out and close the hole. Ethan was a premature baby and was still weighing less than he should at that time, he wanted us to come back and get check out again in a month, but wanted to hear from us if there were any signs of distress or discomfort and to keep track of feedings, input and out put and/or vomiting. Ethan needed to be feed every 2/3 hours because he was spitting up some of the formula. The doctor was hoping that we could wait until about 1 year old before he does surgery on Ethan so he gave us medication and sent us on our way.

The next appointment that we went to Ethan had to have another echo and I remember walking down the hallway feeling alone and uncomfortable. Once we were in the room for the echo I sat next to Ethan looking at the screen praying that nothing has change for the worst and hoping that it either stayed the same or somehow it got better. Imaging having a baby laying on a medical bed and you holding his hand, face and torso. All while looking at the screen in front of you and the technician taking photos. Your not 100% sure on what your looking at, but you know it is off and not right because you can feel it in your gut.

So, back to the exam room we go and wait for the doctor. The doctor arrives and says that we need to do surgery sooner than we thought because one of the sides of the heart is becoming enlarged. So, we set up the surgery date for when they suggested and we are supposed to be there at 5am!

A few days before surgery I called my doctor because I was having so much anxiety and couldn’t sleep. Thankfully she gave me medication so I would be able to sleep.

The morning of the surgery we walked into the hospital and it was pretty much empty you see nurses and some doctors, that’s really it because it was so early in the morning. I remember they came in and drew blood and rubbed cleansers on his chest. I was able to walk back with Ethan and there really were double doors like they tell/show you in the movies. I kissed Ethan and told him I love him. Once they walked through the doors to the other side I could feel my whole body shut down and I backed up to the wall and squatted down and cried. I just handed my son off to the doctors to perform open heart surgery. Ethan was only 5 months old at the time! I had no idea what could/might happen. I prayed and cried! I went back out to the waiting room where my immediate family was.

The head nurse came out to check on me every few hours and give me updates. My Papa from Oklahoma came in town to be with us that day too. I was so blessed to have many of my family members and friends stop by through out the day. Many brought food for everyone and gifts for Ethan. It felt like days until I was able to see Ethan again, but it was about an 8-10 hour surgery. The hours did not go quickly! I tried to take a nap. I went outside and smoked. (I no longer smoke now!) I talked with everyone to keep my mind at ease.

Once the surgery was finished the doctor came out to talk with us and tell us that everything went as planned and that we can go in and see Ethan. I was going to go by myself, but it was suggested that I go with at least one other person. I didn’t really think it all the way through as to how he was going to look afterwards. I wanted to go with my dad. We walked into a room washed our hands and head to the area that he was in. We walked in and Ethan was laying in this big crib with wires everywhere and was still sleeping. My heart started to beat my crazy, I started to sweat and then tear up. I could not hold him to make anything and everything better. There were machines, tubes and wires everywhere. The scar was fresh you could tell. Luckily my dad was next to me and held me close and told me that Ethan will be okay and we will all be here for you and him.

Those that wanted to go back in the room were allowed and then we went home for the night. We spent a few more days in the hospital and then we were released home. I spent every minute I could there.

We went for check ups after surgery and each time has been good. The last time we were in we were released to come back in 5 years. I do know I can call at anytime if I feel like we have a problem, but hopefully we won’t!

I am still very thankful for the doctors, nurses and other staff members that helped us take care of Ethan.

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National Selfie Day 2018

Randy, Ethan and I all went to dinner today and while we were there I told them that it is national selfie day and that we should take a photo. Let me just tell you my boys do not always enjoy taking photos. They even told me that a selfie is not with a group, it is with a single person so I needed to take the photo with just me in it! Yes

That got me to think… is that true? I just figure if the phone is facing in front of you and you are taking a photo of you and others then it’s a selfie! I decided to look it up to get the proper definition and this is what I found on dictionary.com: a photograph taken with a smartphone or other digital camera by a person who is also in the photograph, especially for posting on a social media website.

So, it doesn’t tell you how many people! Oh dear! What do you think?

Since the boys didn’t let me take a photo I grouped together some of my favorite selfies!

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Father’s Day!

Happy Father’s Day to all the Fathers out there!

Ethan is so lucky to have so many amazing adult male figures in his life!

First, I would like to say thank you to his biological dad. We are now at a 50/50 custody agreement and I think it has worked wonders for everyone’s relationship. Thanks for everything you do for Ethan! I know Ethan looks up to you very much!

Second and my most favorite bond that Ethan has is with my husband, Randy. Randy and I have been together since 2014. So, over the last 4 years Ethan and Randy have really gotten to know each other and have built a relationship that I never knew would happen. I am forever grateful for Randy and how much his life changed when met. Randy went from being single, to a relationship with me and then a father figure to Ethan when he is at our house. I am sure it didn’t take much thinking because Ethan and I are pretty awesome, but I am well aware of the fact that he didn’t have to.  There are days when Ethan and Randy get to be by themselves and they call them bro-days! How stinkin cute is that!

Ethan and Randy can now gain up on me and say boys against girls and boys rule. At one point in my life I never thought I would have that and while sometimes it drives me crazy when they do it.. I wouldn’t change it for the world!

Randy doesn’t talk much about his father since he pass before I knew him, but I am sure his dad would be proud of the person Randy is today. Sometimes Randy will say things like how these cookies used to be his dad’s favorite and I enjoy hearing those stories from him. It makes me feel connected to him and like he can tell me anything.

Ethan still has both sets of grandparents on both sides and I believe that they need the acknowledge because they are both there for Ethan when needed. Thank you to both of you.

As you can tell when I think of Father it is not always the biological father it is all male figures in my sons life.

For Father’s Day Ethan will be with his dad and I hope they have a wonderful day and we will celebrate Randy and Ethan’s relationship when he comes back to our house.

On Father’s Day our plan is to spend time with my mom, dad, sister, sisters husband and their two kids. We are going to a brewery tour and Gus’s pretzels.

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